“Do you think a woman will ever be president?” I asked my
mother.
“I don’t know,” she said. “Honestly, I think a black man
will be elected president before a woman will be.”
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My
mother believed she and my dad were about the only liberals in our very
Republican suburb on the North Shore of Chicago. She used to joke that the poll
workers had to shake the dust off the Democratic roster when they came in to
vote in a primary.
She and my dad grew up in hardworking, blue-collar
households. Their generation was the first on both sides of the family to
attend college and, in my dad’s case, even high school. My mother, Ruthie, was
a registered nurse who stayed home with her children—at first.
One day she was
our carpooling, suburban mother who mimeographed League of Women Voters flyers
in the attic and taught Lamaze classes on Wednesday evenings. The next, bolstered
by the women’s liberation movement, she resumed her nursing career, went back
to college and earned a Masters Degree. Later, Ruthie attended seminary, which
led to her ordination as a priest in the Episcopal Church.
In that church, when we renew our
Baptismal Covenant, the priest asks the following question: Will you strive for justice and
peace among all people, and respect the
dignity of every human being? To which we reply, We will.
Justice.
Peace. Dignity.
The
latter, in particular, serves as a clear differentiation between Hillary
Clinton and Donald Trump (and I do believe she strives for justice and peace,
as well). While Trump has demeaned Mexicans, Muslims and women, called people
losers, been consistently divisive, and made insinuations about the size of his
genitalia, Hillary has exemplified grace under pressure.
I
am not a single-issue voter and I accept that in electoral matters there are
often compromises to be made. Whether one disagrees with Hillary’s politics and
positions on social issues, perceives her to be untruthful, or just flat out
dislikes her is beside the point. Throughout the campaign she has been respectful,
tactful and gracious—dignified. No name-calling, no publicity stunts, no
muttered “nasty” comments under her breath, and no boorish behavior. There’s not
much question as to who is more qualified to run our country and who will
represent our country in a dignified manner that befits the office of the
presidency.
My
dad didn’t live to see Barack Obama elected President, but my mother did. I
marvel today at her prediction to me way back in the early ’70s. That somehow
she knew it was going to be an even longer, more difficult road for a woman to shatter
enough good ol’ boy glass ceilings to find her way into the White House, than it
was for a black man, despite our country’s ugly and shameful history of racial oppression
and discrimination. My mother knew what it was like to be a woman in a field
dominated by men, at times even serving congregants who didn’t respect or
accept female priests.
Sadly,
my mom is no longer here to vote on November 8, so I dedicate my no-Trump vote
to her. There is no doubt in my mind who Ruthie’s choice would be and who it
most certainly would not be. What delight she would take in seeing Hillary
Clinton elected our first woman President, and in saying “Hell, no” (with
dignity, of course) to Donald Trump!
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Ok, I am crying. I think I am going to dedicate my vote to your sweet mama too Mary. Love you my friend.
ReplyDeleteBRAVA, Mary! You continue to inspire!
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